Bishop Daniel Robertson, Jr.
Mt. Gilead Full Gospel International Ministries

Marriage.  I’ll be honest – the topic makes me a little nervous.  For so many years, I’ve thrived in my little “single lady” bubble.  After dealing with men… well, boys who lied, cheated, and left me in tears (aka: my bitter black woman phase) – I took comfort in my “I don’t need a man unless he wants to take me out to dinner because I can do bad all by myself” attitude! As a matter of fact, I still flip my hair when I hear Beyonce’s “Single Ladies.”  But, now that I have someone in my life I truly love and respect, I can’t help but wonder what it would be like to be married.

In God’s eyes, marriage is a big deal.  It’s a sacred vow, a holy covenant, a life-long commitment between two people AND God.  With the current rate of divorce though, it makes you wonder how many people truly understand this before they walk down the aisle.  Bishop made so many interesting points that I bought the sermon on CD… well, I actually bought two CDs.  He talked about so much, but here’s what I managed to jot down.

Matthew 18:18-19 (NIV)
“I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.  Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven…”

Don’t marry someone just because they look good.  If you want to know what type of person they really are, look at his/her mom and dad.  Before you marry someone, find out if you’re compatible.  What type of relationship do they have with God?

Matthew 19:5-6 (NIV)
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.  So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

The hardest year of marriage is the first year.  That’s because you really don’t know your spouse yet.  Once you’re married,then you learn who your partner really is.  There’s a difference between dating someone and living with someone.  When you’re married, you are in a covenant with your partner.  But, many people get married, and continue to act like they’re single.

Husbands: Watch your tone, watch your body language, and exercise forgiveness in dealing with your wives.  Complement and defend your wife in public, don’t belittle her.  If you love your wife, you will be able to deal with her weaknesses, but also let her lead in the areas where she is strong.  Help your wife develop the gifts she possesses inside because only then, can she be a better help-mate to you.  The Bible says when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

Wives:  Use wisdom with your husbands.  There is a certain way to approach him as the head of the household:  with respect.  Make sure your children respect and honor him as well.  Your husband needs to have a better prayer life than you because once you’re married whatever anointing is on him will flow to you.  Marriage is more than taking on someone else’s name.  It’s a spiritual agreement.

Something to think about: Your spouse should love God more than you.  It may sound wrong, but it’s true.  If you and your partner both put God first in your lives, He will take care of you both.  In order to have a strong marriage, God must not only be in the mix, He must be at the top.

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